Babies and Their Intuition

Babies are super intuitive and they actually seem to know more about things that normal adults wouldn't be so inclined to know or they could know if they just applied themselves more, but babies seem to have this natural instinct that adults seem to loose when they age.
I research a lot, more than most kids my age I would think, and one of the things I research most is, babies. The reason is they fascinate me and it amazes me how much they know that we take advantage of because we think of ourselves and the age gap that we have the superiority and the knowledge that they don't when really they have knowledge that we don't, that we grow out of and pass off as childish.
I like researching this because I consider myself to be spiritual, not religious, but that is because of my grandmother, and I find myself to be intuitive, but not as much as any other semi-adult. I have a 3 year old brother and he seems to know a lot, to see a lot that we don't.

For instance, I believe that they can see ghosts and beings that aren't of our dimension (maybe you're reading this right now and you think I am a complete psycho for believing in these things, but honestly I find it completely normal to my own character so I don't really care what you think of me).
The reason why I think this, is because my mom has this piece of artwork from a friend that had passed years ago and then when we moved my brother would always be talking to someone, it seemed like, whenever he was by that piece of artwork and we all didn't know why he was talking to himself, until my parents kind of pieced it together and just assumed he was talking to the friend.

With saying that I believe in spirits doesn't mean that I think that they can do harm, well that most of them don't do harm, but there are some spirits that can do harm to people, but not in the sense of the horror movie spirits and ghosts. No, I believe that we all have protector angelic type of spirits, ones that watch over us and bless us by helping us with all of the good in our lives and I believe you can feel this presence like you can also feel the black tentacles of the evil spirits. I just wanted to take a little excerpt to explain what I believe so it makes more sense than before.


So maybe you don't believe the way I do and honestly I don't care if you do or if you don't, I'm not asking you to believe and certainly if you do, great, or you don't, it doesn't matter.

The Great Gatsby

So this week we finished The Great Gatsby and I have something to say about something relating to that.

Fitzgerald had Gatsby put Daisy on a super angelic pedestal and that frustrates me because I realize a lot of guys do this.
Guys will often put girls on pedestals to where the girls can't possibly meet those standards and the guys that put them there, they're fantasizing about about that girl, but an overly perfect version of themselves that makes them think they are competing with themselves for attention.
When guys do this it's difficult and frustrating because we feel like there's always something that will disappoint them because there will be those moments where they realize that the fantasy isn't like the reality and those moments are moments that'll hurt the most for the girls.
The girls will always wonder if what they do is right and what the guys want, but they will never actually know if what they do is what the guys think when they think of the angelic perfection that is "them".

I'm so sorry about the very short post tonight and I promise that next week's post will be much much longer than this. I just feel like I am the one who needs to be receiving advice versus giving advice.
This is one of those rare moments in time where this'll happen, but I'm just not really in the advice-giving mood.

Music

Once again, no messages or emails asking for advice.
Okay well, a lot of teenagers use music to help them solve problems or even just for a pick me up or a stress reliever, I know I do.
Music just helps because most of the time people feel like they connect with the music because most of the time a song can come on and it describes a situation that someone's in perfectly.
I know I said teenagers, but really everyone does this. Music is everyone's escape from what ever is happening in their life and I have noticed how some types of songs may mean something different for a person's mood, but with that being said there are people that have different likes and taste and whether or not they are listening to a specific thing may just be because that is what they are into.
I am going to try and decipher the different song/music types for you so that when you hear someone listening to it you can know what mood they could be in.
(This may become raunchy, possibly just a little, but not too much)
The Sad Love Song
The sad love song is what people could be listening to right after a break up (the period where they just feel the need to cry and beat themselves up because the relationship didn't work out because of something that they did) or it might be because they miss their SO (significant other) because that SO is on a trip or far away from them and all they want is for him/her to be with them.
The Angry Love Song
This is for the person who just got out of the sad love song phase of their breakup. This type of song basically is the anti love song and that being what it is helps with the healing process of  their break up. Or people could listen to this type of love song when they hate their SO for who knows what.

The Regular Love Song
This type of song signifies new love. The bubbly feeling you get with a really happy relationship or with a brand new one when you're still in the Honeymoon phase (some couples never get out of this phase).
The Angry at the Whole World Song

This type of song signifies that something bad just happened in their life and possibly they just want to be left alone with their music because they feel like that's the only thing that can help them feel normal.
The Self Pick Me Up Song
This type of song is when people feel great about themselves and the lyrics in the song only make them feel better about themselves.

These are the main types of songs and if someone's out of their normal self and listening to something that they don't normally listen to then you have to ask yourself, what's wrong, and how can you help fix it?

How to Find Out Whether or Not Someone Truly Loves You

This post is from someone who asked how to find out when someone truly loves you because this person's last relationship was kind of a long distance relationship and every time they ask someone out, that person always turn them down, so they have turned to me for help on what they should do.
This is the first time I have used names on this blog, but from now on, when I have someone send me in a situation, I am going to give them a name, or really, their situation. So for this person, their name is TrueLove. 
Okay, so for anyone who knows me in person, they know I am such a Disney freak and for this post it's going to come up a lot with true love and how you know. I'm not ashamed of being a Disney freak because I feel like Disney is for everyone and honestly, everyone needs a little magic in their lives.
So to answer TrueLove's question: what should they do?
This may seem like an easy question to answer, but honestly it's not because even if you don't think you're doing anything wrong, you may be doing something wrong and that is a very quick fix if you know what it is and how to fix it.
True love is something that you just know when you feel it no matter if you're doing something wrong or not because if it's truly meant to be both parties will know automatically. It's magical when you find it and absolutely perfect because it's something of a fairytale.
With that being said, true love doesn't always come with young age, but sometimes you have to wait half your life to find your true love. That is the same thing with truly loving someone because you feel it in your heart that it's right and nothing can second guess you.
If you truly love someone and they don't feel the same way, they may just not be the right person for you, so hold out for that perfect fit, your true love because that is the person who will truly love you for you.
If you keep getting rejected, then maybe, you should just not keep asking until you can figure out whether or not they feel sorta the same way about you and you can do that by asking around, but not in a creepy stalker way, but sometimes you'll just have to go middle school on the situation and then those tactics will help you get closer to your true love.

New Relationships (Relationships in General) and Going into the Military

I yet again have not gotten a question or situation that I can help with again so once more I am going to write something that I want to give advice about.

I personally have never had this problem before, but I can figure how difficult it can be for new relationships especially when something like a military deployment is pressing on it.

Okay every relationship will be different so who's to say whether it will or won't work because there isn't any way of knowing if yours and your partner's relationship is different.

Personally, I don't like war, but that is just my personal opinion. I know there are some people that are super patriotic and I like that they feel so strongly about something that they feel like they should do something, like go to war.
New relationships are hard to begin with because they are new and slightly unstable, or they can be, but not every relationship is like this, some are super easy and then they might see problems later on. That's just how relationships are, you have to find what works best and hammer that "nail" down in the ground, if not, you are going to see problems, maybe.
Having you, or your partner going into the military can be complicated when you've been together for a while.
Being in a brand new relationship (IE having had a few dates, but not yet calling it a relationship) and then having one person being deployed is really hard, but with the right people it can work. It's just like any other long distance relationship, that's basically how you can label it, but them being in the military can add another risk factor, but that risk factor comes along with war, that would be there even if you weren't in that relationship.
Sometimes, it's not that the fact that they are in the military that puts an end to the relationship, but other factors and that can happen, you can never tell what will happen in the future.
Sometimes the military factor doesn't play into it at all, but other factors that will put a strain on that relationship, but no matter what it is,  you will be okay in the end, even if you're not with that person.
Military relationships are just long distance relationships, but they also have this added fear factor because of what war is and that is often difficult for some people to deal with because for a select amount of time you are worried about whether or not they are safe and that is very difficult for some people with knowing that there is a possibility that in a second, their loved one can be in the ground forever away from them.
Sometimes if you're in this situation you have to have faith, not necessarily in a God (only if you don't believe in God), but in your love I guess and the fact that they will be safe and nothing will change, just let go of rationality (only for this part of your life) if you want to stay with that person because that's the only way you'll keep a hold of the relationship.

http://www.wikihow.com/Cope-when-Your-Boyfriend-Joins-the-Military
http://www.ehow.com/how_8757635_cope-boyfriend-being-deployed.html

Sorry, but they don't have any links for guys, but I believe the same rules apply.

Hills Like White Elephants

I don't have any questions on my email, which is fine with me, I'm fine giving advice on things that I want to, but if anyone has questions or situations that they want help with, I will keep it very anonymous, no names will be mentioned.

 Okay, so yesterday, our homework for English class was to read Ernest Hemingway's Hills Like White Elephants, which I did. But something stuck with me, even though this was set in a different time and things were different then, it stuck with me because it's something that is seen a lot (I haven't seen it with me or my experiences) and that is guys thinking that they can make their girlfriends do what they want, not what their girlfriends want.

For example, in Hills Like White Elephants, "the American" tells his girlfriend that he wants their life to be like it was before her pregnancy and then he wants her to get an abortion so that life could go back to normal.
To be quite fair, she establishes earlier that he has the power.
He does the typical guy thing and tells her that the operation is her choice when really, what he's doing is telling her and guilt tripping her into killing a part of herself, but he doesn't want to seem like he's a big jerk (I'd use something stronger, but this is a blog, so I won't) so he just proposes it in a way that it seems like she has the choice and decisions when really in the end, he'll make the decision to go, but when he gets back to the table where she's at, she tells him that there is nothing wrong with her and so by that (I think), she's making her decision to keep the baby.
Okay, let me just say something about abortions really quickly (although I have no personal experience with them). Yes, women can be happy and lead happy lives after an abortion and they can be utterly fine. But that's not all women. Some women can start feeling lost afterward because I've heard that some women, when they get pregnant, start having the motherly feel that comes with the child growing inside them. Once you take that away for those women, they feel like they lost a part of themselves and when they get the abortion they think that they are doing the right thing and then as the time passes they feel more and more lost because they can start wanting the pregnancy back.
To have someone, a guy, tell you (to all the women) to do something like killing a part of your body because even if you don't think that babies are humans from conception, you still have to think about the fact that you are growing a little thing in you and for nine months you are the incubator for that tiny human being.

For some one to tell you, you can't do something that is obviously your choice because they think, "it's all your fault", well, I think you found that you can't be with that person because not only is it not your fault considering they helped even more than you did, they want to blame it all on you, which isn't healthy for you or anyone else.

Choices are yours, not for anyone else to tell you what they want you to do because it's your body so therefore, your choice and I don't just mean abortions, but anything else as well.

Valentine's Day: How to Propose

So this is kind of the opposite of my last post stemmed from a question I got last Wednesday.

The last post was about how to show you care without making her think you're going to propose, but this post is about how to make it so she thinks you are proposing because you will be (only if you want to propose).

So of course, this might sound like the most uncomplicated things to ever do, but I can tell you it's hard (not that I've gone through it before). You might think that if you want to propose you should do it like they do it in the movies and T.V. shows, but that is the most cliche thing to do. They call it a cliche for a reason because it's been done over and over again.

If you do this, she will see it coming, so for the sake of saving your proposal and keeping it a secret, don't go cliche.

If you choose to go to a restaurant, that's fine, but please don't put it in a desert or in a glass of wine because she won't see it and then you have a health problem on your hands. Trust me, she won't forget that you could have caused her health problems if she doesn't see it and you don't want that.

You best shot, is to do what I said in the post before, is to really make it known that you have been noticing everything that she likes and what she doesn't like and I don't mean the basic things, I mean the things that only you would know.

The things like:
1. When she's sad, even though she doesn't let it on that she is, and you hug her and it makes everything all better.
2. If she starts getting stressed, you make her stop and focus on you, until she's no longer about ready to explode.

Or really anything else like that you have noticed in your relationship duration. It's truly the little things, the little details you remember that will make her smile and make her more willing to consider a life with you by her side.

If you do something that you've seen in the movies because it worked in the movie, she will either think it's super cheesy or cute, and that cute could either be a good thing or a bad thing. If it's a bad thing then you're in big trouble because that means she's probably not thinking about a future with you at your side.

If it's good then you're fine, have fun with your engagement and your life with your loved one.

I hope you have a very happy life together.