Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Not-So-Long-Long Distance Relationships

Since I haven't gotten any emails on any situations or any questions about anything that I can help people out with yet, I am just going to relay advice that I gave to someone a few months ago.

Okay, so a few months ago I was talking to someone who's in a very committed relationship, but she had just turned 18 whereas her partner had turned 18 months before that, this wasn't the problem however. This person I was talking to was feeling a tug in the relationship and not a good tug because they hadn't really spent that much time together seeing that her partner was off being an adult when she hadn't quite gotten to where her partner was.

What I did to help her, was I started talking about my situation at that time. My situation, of course, was more complicated than hers was, but through me talking non-stop about my situation for a few days straight, she was able to figure out what she needed to do with her relationship.

She told me she admired my dedication to my guy and if I could be that dedicated to him although I hadn't seen him that she could get past the slight road bump in her relationship.

I wasn't and still am not completely sure how my situation helped with hers, since it was the same only in principal, but I'm glad that it helped her out and I'm happy to say that they are stronger than ever from what I hear.

If you are in a relationship don't fret over seeing them every single day. If you truly care about and love one another distance and time can't separate you. I know it's nerve-wracking, believe me, I have been there where I pain because my boyfriend isn't near me (although it hasn't gotten to be that severe in a time), that is only natural because you love and care about them and always want to be with them.

If, however, they ended the relationship because it was "becoming too much to deal with the long distance", then it isn't you. Trust me, it's not. That just told you that they weren't the right one for you because if they are right for you, then distance can't separate you, nothing really can.

If you are a teenager and you are searching for "the one", please stop. You can't find them when you're young, although some people do, that's some people, not you. If you do, then that's great, hold on to them, but if you don't, don't stress you are young, you have time (coming from a teenager). 

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